Vous êtes punis!

Posted on Tuesday, August 28, 2018 by Manon Sookocheff.

« Les élèves ne m’écoutent pas, ils parlent quand je parle, ils n’arrêtent pas quand je leur demande, ils se lèvent n’importe quand, ils n’attendent pas leur tour de parole, ils me parlent n’importe comment…je les punis, ils arrêtent pour un moment et dès que c’est fini, ils recommencent, comme s’ils n’avaient rien appris! Il n’y a rien qui fonctionne! » Si cette pensée vous passe par la tête de temps en temps, ou si ça semble être l’histoire de votre vie, vous n’êtes pas seul!

Tapping Out of Anxiety

Posted on Thursday, April 27, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

Events don’t traumatize us. They also don’t cause us to become anxious. It’s the meaning we attach to those events that does – the limiting beliefs we form about ourselves and about the world as a result of the traumatic event (I’m not good enough; I’m worthless; I’m unsafe…). THAT is what stays with us and sinks deep into our subconscious mind. If it is true that 95% of our actions are the result of subconscious processing, and that a mere 5% of our decisions are made at the conscious level, it seems like a worthwhile undertaking to learn to communicate with our subconscious mind and modify the limiting beliefs that colour our decisions.

Tantrum Management – Or Helping a Child Out of Panic: A Step-by-Step Guide

Posted on Wednesday, March 22, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

If you haven’t done so already, you may want to start by reading Tantrum Management – Or Helping a Child Out of Panic. Increasing Safety – Using the Straw Stay! – When a child is kicking and screaming, it may be tempting to bring the child to their room and leave them alone to “not reward the behaviour”, or to “give them a chance to calm down”. What we need to remember is that the child has very little control over the exhibited behaviour, and if he did, he would choose otherwise.

Tantrum Management – Or Helping a Child Out of Panic

Posted on Wednesday, March 22, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

To help a toddler in the throes of a tantrum, or a child in the agony of sheer panic, it is crucial to understand what is happening to them physiologically, and to keep in mind that they are hating that moment just as much as we are! Most of us try to reason with the distressed child, when in fact, that very act fuels the fire and amplifies the tantrum’s intensity.

Prove it Woman!

Posted on Wednesday, March 8, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

A few years ago, I knew a man. He was part of a man’s world. He earned a Ph.D. in Computer Science. He studied Probabilistic Reasoning in Artificial Intelligence. He entered the program with excellent grades, a string of peer-reviewed publications, and an applauded thesis at the Master’s level. With his knack for finding intricate relationships between seemingly unrelated bits of information, he chose a unique path. He combined his logical, analytical mind, and his passion for psychology, to explore how probabilistic models could be used to shed some light on how we, as humans, use a) our past experiences and knowledge; and b) environmental cues – to make decisions in the world.

A Well-Behaved Child Is A Connected Child

Posted on Tuesday, February 28, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

Dr. Laura Markham, clinical psychologist specializing in child development and parenting, without who I have NO idea how I would do this “mom thing”, believes the key ingredient to a collaborative and well-behaved child is connection. A child who believes we are on their side is happy to collaborate with us. On the flip side, a child who refuses to cooperate is more than likely feeling disconnected in some way to their parent.

“Punish and They Will Learn” - But What Exactly Will They Learn?

Posted on Tuesday, February 21, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

We love our children and want them to “be good”. So when they “misbehave”, we want to “teach them a lesson”. We want the consequence to be severe enough that they will “learn” and behave “appropriately” next time. We are teaching them indeed, but perhaps the lesson we are teaching is not the one we intended. Dr. Laura Markham, clinical psychologist specializing in child development and parenting, has researched punishment extensively.

How Do I Teach My Children to Treat Me? And How Do I Treat Them?

Posted on Tuesday, February 14, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

Why me first? I can’t help you breathe if I’m not breathing. Keeping in mind that the way our children treat us is a reflection of the way they will treat others, it seems like a good idea to teach them to interact with us respectfully. But what does that look like? That’s a tricky one. Please keep in mind that the first two categories I describe below are extremes, and that even if you fall into some of the patterns I describe, you likely also maintain a connection, offer loving guidance, and honour feelings.

Compassion - Be the Pebble

Posted on Tuesday, February 7, 2017 by Manon Sookocheff.

Everywhere I turn, political views are being expressed. Some share their surprise, their discouragement, their anger, their fears, their sadness, their disgust, their disagreements, their “how could this happen?!?!?!”. Others share their hopes, their eagerness for change, their excitement. I don’t condemn the practice altogether. Sharing ideas is important; expressing and receiving views on public platforms, such as social media, exposes us to a variety of angles on common topics, and allows us to entertain the possibility that someone else might have a valid point, even if it is different from our own. From that, the possibility for growth is born. Sharing interpretations helps us make sense of the seemingly senseless.